Goodbye, farewell mate!

Was just counting the dates on the calendar an hour or so ago and realised something.

It’s been almost 49 days since my friend Sam Ly passed away in London.

Why have I mentioned 49 days, and why is it so significant?

The traditional Buddhist funeral ceremony goes on for an entire 7 weeks. That’s 7 days a week, for 7 weeks. Which equals 49 days.

The best description I’ve found of it on the web is the following quote:

This Buddhist custom is based on the idea that a person enters his next rebirth after a period of seven times seven (49) days.
… But the custom itself was adopted from general Buddhism in order that the 7th day rites may become an occasion to cherish the memory of the deceased and also be an opportunity to hear the Dharma and awaken to the compassion of Amida Buddha.


In the days and weeks following the death especially for the first 49 days one can help the dead person’s mind/spirit by avoiding harming others, generating love and compassion, doing kind actions, making charity and specific prayers and practices that their spiritual teachers recommend and dedicating this positive energy to the mind/spirit of the deceased, wishing only peace and happiness for them and rebirth in the presence of their God or Buddha.

Buddhists believe that a happy, positive, peaceful mind creates a life of good deeds and morality, which produces a happy, fortunate rebirth. Bereaved Buddhists want the deceased to achieve this and will continue to do prayers and rituals for 49 days (the end of the Intermediate State when Rebirth takes place).

Every single religion on this planet has different beliefs for life (if any) after death. The above is a brief illustration of mine.

It is quite different to many other religions. Those of different beliefs may find it strange, but interesting. Our world is a very multicultural one, and the best way of living with each other in a meaningful way is to understand each others’ various beliefs and to respect them, as they should respect yours.

Sam, all the best in your next life mate.

Take care, you’ll always be in my thoughts, and have been since I first found out what happened to you.

It’s never easy losing a friend. But life and death is a part of our everyday lives.
The past 7 weeks have been a time of much reflections on many things from life in general, to memories of all of my time during uni. (I’m also aware that my blogging has somewhat dropped off of late, this is only part of the reason for it though things are starting to pick up again. Work has been quite busy to say the least…).

We all move on after a tradgedy, and we do learn to live with it. We remember all the happy memories associated with that individual, and wish them all the best in their next journey of life.